Should I give her a 2nd chance?

[RedLineResident]

My suggestion would be to walk away, get your friends to keep you company and keep your mind active, keep her off your mind.
Find a hobby, be it the astina, sport, gym whatever...
I've found that the better you keep the mind occupied, the faster and easier you move on... and don't worry, another will come across in no time...

But bottom line is - walk away.
As painful as it is, if you continue, you will never shake those thoughts and you will never look at her the same way.

[mill_mobile]

Originally Posted by RedLineResident

My suggestion would be to walk away, get your friends to keep you company and keep your mind active, keep her off your mind.
Find a hobby, be it the astina, sport, gym whatever...
I've found that the better you keep the mind occupied, the faster and easier you move on... and don't worry, another will come across in no time...

But bottom line is - walk away.
As painful as it is, if you continue, you will never shake those thoughts and you will never look at her the same way.

Cheers, I am in need of a decent surf at the moment to clear my head, but unfortunately it's totally flat at the moment

I don't have the 'stina anymore I bloody miss it though.

I have sent her a long email - it kinda sounded like I was ripping into her, which I didn't want it to, but I needed to tell her what I have been through last night and today, and what thoughts have been going on in my head.

This sh*t sucks.

I want to walk away, I REALLY do...

[Noble323]

hey,

trust me mate better this be left alone .......

honestly think about it - this happened within 2 months and your cut up badly imagine you were going out longer and this happened ..... better to find out early than later .

And i know what your feeling a big part of you still wants to be with her and hard to let go - but again better now than later - and about giving it a second ago - ill forget that - like you said she try'd to get it on with you the first time - i mean normally its the guys that tries to start that thing - lol - to me she just sounds like a party girl .

Plus i think basically everyone is telling you to drop her - so it really should be a easy choice . Plenty girls out there - nothing happens quick for a relationship - gotta wait and the right one comes along .

[mussing]

Originally Posted by Ghoru

2 months in and she is playing sausage wallet to some other guy without a raincoat ... she would have set your nuts on fire by now.

Originally Posted by Ghoru

so unless she gives the best bj in the world or has beer flavored nipples she ain't worth the head ache

Ghoru you are priceless!

On topic, relationships are built on trust, so cheating and trust issues that early in a relationship are a pretty big sign that something's wrong. I'd say let it sit for a while and if you come back to having a relationship after a month, well hey that's great. If you go straight back into it with her there's no way of knowing if she'll "really mean it this time" or if she'll do it again when she finds something different.

So I say walk away for now. If you're that keen on each other you'll work it out with time.

[S373N]

i had this sort happen to me,
had a girl she goes to hobart with friends to visit a girl they all hadnt seen in a while.
she pops a pill or two and next morning messages me saying she's hurting and doesnt know why.
my stomach was coming out my ass and mouth at the same time, it's horrible to hear it.
anyway found out weeks later, her asian **** retard bull**** artist 'friend' who i hated too much already, had his way with her.

we talked on the phone for a few days then all of a sudden my gut's like "nah man, this bitch is not worth it" she was talking and saying sorry and all and i just told her to **** off, cheating is cheating, she was conscious enough to know **** went down and it's a gutless thing to do to someone.

not worth it dude
i've seen this girl lately and she looks like hell with a new boyfriend, i say good luck to them, they'll end up in a gutter.
maybe i'm just plain evil, but when you get hit hard you gotta get back up above it all, you're better that these women.

[70NYD]

s373n whan you are talking about is rape but, having drugs to the point of loosing controll and being raped is completly different story..

[S373N]

fact is she knew it happened in the end anyway, she had the chance to stop it

[mill_mobile]

Everytime I settle on giving her a second chance, I know I will most likely never fully trust her again, so in some ways don't see the point.
I am meeting up with her on Saturday and have told her to have a think and try and justify to me why I should let her back into my life, what she can bring to it, why I am different to other males, why she thinks I should be in her life - more or less why i should bother after the way she has made me feel.
I have told her if she can't come up with anything substantial, that she can say to my face, then I'm not willing to even try and start from friends and try and let her back in my trust zone.

[RedLineResident]

Man... Walking away is your only real choice if you don't want mega mega complications in the future... because even is she gets a 2nd chance and is 100% faithful, believe me you won't be satisfied or completely at peace... or you'll treat her like dirt to punish her for this and cheat on her etc and that won't work either...

My suggestion would be to;
Walk away, and buy a bike... a motorbike... (weird suggestions i know but bare with me)
I have found this to an activity which takes up every single bit of your concentration and clears your head like nothing else... A hot twisty run in a car does not compare... and when your stressed, or simply have something on your mind you don't want there but can't shake... you fire it up and put $12 of petrol in and kill 6 hours while returning home feeling fantastic...

Surfing may do the same for you, it's what the astina used to do for me... but the ninja has brought a whole new level of adrenalin and stress relief and head cleansing into the mix...

[mill_mobile]

I can't afford a bike, well, I can, but cash is tied up in term deopisits for a house, and my parents would kill me of I rocked up with a bike... Plus, I'm not spending that much money because of her - Surfing, trials unicycling and road cycling are my normal 'head clearers', and it's times like this I miss the Astina, she was my old faithful - get in and go for a spin - It's what I did when both my grandfathers died.
I have hooked up all of next week off work, so after Saturday I plan to not talk to her again for a while to give me time to process whatever she may say to me... I will surf down here Monday and Tuesday as it looks like there is some swell on the way, then I am heading up the coast for the rest of the week - No mobile reception, no computer, no contact with the 'real world'.

[Lachlan]

honestly mate,
i'd let her go. i had a girlfriend years ago that i was going out with for three months and she went out somewhere without me, drank abit and ended up kissing some guy. I forgave her for that but it just wasnt the same, and that was only kissing?! I think that trust can definitely be rebuilt to a certain extent but you will always have it playing in the back of your mind when the two of you are apart. So even after a break, if you both still have feelings for each other, it may still be a good idea to let her go. I obviously broke up with that girlfriend. Found a new one about a year later and have been with her for 4 years. I'm sure you will find someone else.

Goodluck all the same, whatever you choose.

[02-KQ-LASR]

the only thing i can really say mate, is that from my personal experience, when i broke up with my ex gf (we were together for 4ish yrs through school) it was really really hard, but i knew the right thing to do for me i felt like crap 99% of the time, had nothing going on in life and was wasting away... so i bit the bullet and made a choice and got on with it.... look at me now, im engaged, building a house, job prospects are good and everything looks great! i KNOW for a fact if i had stayed with her i would have been stuck in a rut, with nothing to show for it.

nothing is gained without a sacrifice, be it something big or little. just try to look at the bigger picture!

hope this helps mate.

[rodhog]

Being the scum that I am.

It's A MAN's CHOICE on how he lives his life IMO 3 main ways

1 - you can look for love or your virgin depending and be done and never know what it's like going to other parts of the world.

2 YOu can try to play the feild and bit and then find your LOVED ONE. and do the rest.
marriage family etc

3rd - MY WAY
YOU DO EVERYTHING THING YOUR ATTRACTED TOO. Well you try. Yeah even your car.
YOu SMASH EVERYTHING - GO to Brothels - Go to clubs GO to MARDI GRA's, Got to church - yes church it's amazing how many single white females (yeah white LOL) are looking for GOD and I try and help them find him. IMO he's in my pants.


It's all choice.

Each path will lead down to areas of regreat - BE it lost love - I was in love with a stripper, and like most things in life you Go latter on did I miss the SEX - the 3 somes - or the Girls.
Then if you take the Fun side you have frezzing off WARTS off your BALLS. Or the 2 week wait after you wake up next to what you thought was a 6ft blonde with nice legs. (hey I'm from Sydney and I've been drunk too many times)

All I can say is when you make choice don't regreat it. Move on with it, Keep your self and your health right and nothing can hurt you.

As for all you worried about cheating. hear is a few thoughts.

If you think about how many Penis's your GF has had in her mouth.
Do you think she thinks about how many Mouths have been around your Penis.

Do you think just because your seeing each other for 3-6 months.
And you meat Girls of your dreams - "insert name here"
And she meets her man of her dreams " aka Brad pitt " what ever.
Do you think either side will say no.

It's like that Beyonce Song about putting Ring's on it. ?

but then again IN Australia live 12 months with someone well I thin it applies to GAys now not sure but at least feamle where there is NO set arrangement EG not paying equal rent etc on the lease etc. type crap. You become a defacto.


End of the day I'll say this A very good frined of mine, Brothel hops weekly - for last 7 years. that's at least 50 different FEMALES (1 a week) for 7 years . thats like 350 or something. Excludes the 3-somes - party rooms ( I've visted- like 10 whores and lots of stuff and crazy things) and his favourite Vegas weekend.
Did he ever find love . Yeah he found a Wife - who had another mans child into the 2nd year. - Not his kid - And well he got out and became like MY hero.

Is he happy. I don't know he works he has sex - he drives a new car every 6 months and he has a very big smile on his face and constant hard -on.

he took option 1 then option 3. he's only 29 now.

Basicly The world is as large as you make it and Your life is as large as you make it.

With out him I would never of seen, Trannys, lesbians and Gays in normal world. If I stayed in my world. I would never of known that Cocane can be like Viagra - for both sex's - Or if you mix a Methanphetamine with Viagra, your wild and hard for ages.

Or that it's hard to drive with hard on because the steering wheels keeps hitting your head.


Dump her
Keep her
**** her
what ever.
lifes too short too worry.

[Ghoru]

ok i agree with rod (yes for once) even tho i bet his posted gets removed (mine did for god knows what) he does make a good point to an extent

[DavoAust]

Glad I read rod's post before it gets deleted. Hilarious.

Mate I'd move on. Its 2 months in and she's done this. What can you expect as it goes on longer and she gets more complacent about it? Cut your losses and end it. If you can remain friends good on ya.

[70NYD]

Originally Posted by rodhog

Being the scum that I am.

It's A MAN's CHOICE on how he lives his life IMO 3 main ways

1 - you can look for love or your virgin depending and be done and never know what it's like going to other parts of the world.

2 YOu can try to play the feild and bit and then find your LOVED ONE. and do the rest.
marriage family etc

3rd - MY WAY
YOU DO EVERYTHING THING YOUR ATTRACTED TOO. Well you try. Yeah even your car.
YOu SMASH EVERYTHING - GO to Brothels - Go to clubs GO to MARDI GRA's, Got to church - yes church it's amazing how many single white females (yeah white LOL) are looking for GOD and I try and help them find him. IMO he's in my pants.


It's all choice.

Each path will lead down to areas of regreat - BE it lost love - I was in love with a stripper, and like most things in life you Go latter on did I miss the SEX - the 3 somes - or the Girls.
Then if you take the Fun side you have frezzing off WARTS off your BALLS. Or the 2 week wait after you wake up next to what you thought was a 6ft blonde with nice legs. (hey I'm from Sydney and I've been drunk too many times)

All I can say is when you make choice don't regreat it. Move on with it, Keep your self and your health right and nothing can hurt you.

As for all you worried about cheating. hear is a few thoughts.

If you think about how many Penis's your GF has had in her mouth.
Do you think she thinks about how many Mouths have been around your Penis.

Do you think just because your seeing each other for 3-6 months.
And you meat Girls of your dreams - "insert name here"
And she meets her man of her dreams " aka Brad pitt " what ever.
Do you think either side will say no.

It's like that Beyonce Song about putting Ring's on it. ?

but then again IN Australia live 12 months with someone well I thin it applies to GAys now not sure but at least feamle where there is NO set arrangement EG not paying equal rent etc on the lease etc. type crap. You become a defacto.


End of the day I'll say this A very good frined of mine, Brothel hops weekly - for last 7 years. that's at least 50 different FEMALES (1 a week) for 7 years . thats like 350 or something. Excludes the 3-somes - party rooms ( I've visted- like 10 whores and lots of stuff and crazy things) and his favourite Vegas weekend.
Did he ever find love . Yeah he found a Wife - who had another mans child into the 2nd year. - Not his kid - And well he got out and became like MY hero.

Is he happy. I don't know he works he has sex - he drives a new car every 6 months and he has a very big smile on his face and constant hard -on.

he took option 1 then option 3. he's only 29 now.

Basicly The world is as large as you make it and Your life is as large as you make it.

With out him I would never of seen, Trannys, lesbians and Gays in normal world. If I stayed in my world. I would never of known that Cocane can be like Viagra - for both sex's - Or if you mix a Methanphetamine with Viagra, your wild and hard for ages.

Or that it's hard to drive with hard on because the steering wheels keeps hitting your head.


Dump her
Keep her
**** her
what ever.
lifes too short too worry.

again mate awesome post

[so fresh]

Originally Posted by rodhog

Being the scum that I am.

It's A MAN's CHOICE on how he lives his life IMO 3 main ways

1 - you can look for love or your virgin depending and be done and never know what it's like going to other parts of the world.

2 YOu can try to play the feild and bit and then find your LOVED ONE. and do the rest.
marriage family etc

3rd - MY WAY
YOU DO EVERYTHING THING YOUR ATTRACTED TOO. Well you try. Yeah even your car.
YOu SMASH EVERYTHING - GO to Brothels - Go to clubs GO to MARDI GRA's, Got to church - yes church it's amazing how many single white females (yeah white LOL) are looking for GOD and I try and help them find him. IMO he's in my pants.


It's all choice.

Each path will lead down to areas of regreat - BE it lost love - I was in love with a stripper, and like most things in life you Go latter on did I miss the SEX - the 3 somes - or the Girls.
Then if you take the Fun side you have frezzing off WARTS off your BALLS. Or the 2 week wait after you wake up next to what you thought was a 6ft blonde with nice legs. (hey I'm from Sydney and I've been drunk too many times)

All I can say is when you make choice don't regreat it. Move on with it, Keep your self and your health right and nothing can hurt you.

As for all you worried about cheating. hear is a few thoughts.

If you think about how many Penis's your GF has had in her mouth.
Do you think she thinks about how many Mouths have been around your Penis.

Do you think just because your seeing each other for 3-6 months.
And you meat Girls of your dreams - "insert name here"
And she meets her man of her dreams " aka Brad pitt " what ever.
Do you think either side will say no.

It's like that Beyonce Song about putting Ring's on it. ?

but then again IN Australia live 12 months with someone well I thin it applies to GAys now not sure but at least feamle where there is NO set arrangement EG not paying equal rent etc on the lease etc. type crap. You become a defacto.


End of the day I'll say this A very good frined of mine, Brothel hops weekly - for last 7 years. that's at least 50 different FEMALES (1 a week) for 7 years . thats like 350 or something. Excludes the 3-somes - party rooms ( I've visted- like 10 whores and lots of stuff and crazy things) and his favourite Vegas weekend.
Did he ever find love . Yeah he found a Wife - who had another mans child into the 2nd year. - Not his kid - And well he got out and became like MY hero.

Is he happy. I don't know he works he has sex - he drives a new car every 6 months and he has a very big smile on his face and constant hard -on.

he took option 1 then option 3. he's only 29 now.

Basicly The world is as large as you make it and Your life is as large as you make it.

With out him I would never of seen, Trannys, lesbians and Gays in normal world. If I stayed in my world. I would never of known that Cocane can be like Viagra - for both sex's - Or if you mix a Methanphetamine with Viagra, your wild and hard for ages.

Or that it's hard to drive with hard on because the steering wheels keeps hitting your head.


Dump her
Keep her
**** her
what ever.
lifes too short too worry.

give this man a logie!!!

[RedLineResident]

Originally Posted by rodhog

Being the scum that I am.

It's A MAN's CHOICE on how he lives his life IMO 3 main ways

1 - you can look for love or your virgin depending and be done and never know what it's like going to other parts of the world.

2 YOu can try to play the feild and bit and then find your LOVED ONE. and do the rest.
marriage family etc

3rd - MY WAY
YOU DO EVERYTHING THING YOUR ATTRACTED TOO. Well you try. Yeah even your car.
YOu SMASH EVERYTHING - GO to Brothels - Go to clubs GO to MARDI GRA's, Got to church - yes church it's amazing how many single white females (yeah white LOL) are looking for GOD and I try and help them find him. IMO he's in my pants.


It's all choice.

Each path will lead down to areas of regreat - BE it lost love - I was in love with a stripper, and like most things in life you Go latter on did I miss the SEX - the 3 somes - or the Girls.
Then if you take the Fun side you have frezzing off WARTS off your BALLS. Or the 2 week wait after you wake up next to what you thought was a 6ft blonde with nice legs. (hey I'm from Sydney and I've been drunk too many times)

All I can say is when you make choice don't regreat it. Move on with it, Keep your self and your health right and nothing can hurt you.

As for all you worried about cheating. hear is a few thoughts.

If you think about how many Penis's your GF has had in her mouth.
Do you think she thinks about how many Mouths have been around your Penis.

Do you think just because your seeing each other for 3-6 months.
And you meat Girls of your dreams - "insert name here"
And she meets her man of her dreams " aka Brad pitt " what ever.
Do you think either side will say no.

It's like that Beyonce Song about putting Ring's on it. ?

but then again IN Australia live 12 months with someone well I thin it applies to GAys now not sure but at least feamle where there is NO set arrangement EG not paying equal rent etc on the lease etc. type crap. You become a defacto.


End of the day I'll say this A very good frined of mine, Brothel hops weekly - for last 7 years. that's at least 50 different FEMALES (1 a week) for 7 years . thats like 350 or something. Excludes the 3-somes - party rooms ( I've visted- like 10 whores and lots of stuff and crazy things) and his favourite Vegas weekend.
Did he ever find love . Yeah he found a Wife - who had another mans child into the 2nd year. - Not his kid - And well he got out and became like MY hero.

Is he happy. I don't know he works he has sex - he drives a new car every 6 months and he has a very big smile on his face and constant hard -on.

he took option 1 then option 3. he's only 29 now.

Basicly The world is as large as you make it and Your life is as large as you make it.

With out him I would never of seen, Trannys, lesbians and Gays in normal world. If I stayed in my world. I would never of known that Cocane can be like Viagra - for both sex's - Or if you mix a Methanphetamine with Viagra, your wild and hard for ages.

Or that it's hard to drive with hard on because the steering wheels keeps hitting your head.


Dump her
Keep her
**** her
what ever.
lifes too short too worry.

This deserves a standing ovation...

Very well written

[Rupewrecht]

...do you guys really need to quote the whole thing?

[spenaroo]

Originally Posted by rodhog

Being the scum that I am.

It's A MAN's CHOICE on how he lives his life IMO 3 main ways

1 - you can look for love or your virgin depending and be done and never know what it's like going to other parts of the world.

2 YOu can try to play the feild and bit and then find your LOVED ONE. and do the rest.
marriage family etc

3rd - MY WAY
YOU DO EVERYTHING THING YOUR ATTRACTED TOO. Well you try. Yeah even your car.
YOu SMASH EVERYTHING - GO to Brothels - Go to clubs GO to MARDI GRA's, Got to church - yes church it's amazing how many single white females (yeah white LOL) are looking for GOD and I try and help them find him. IMO he's in my pants.


It's all choice.

Each path will lead down to areas of regreat - BE it lost love - I was in love with a stripper, and like most things in life you Go latter on did I miss the SEX - the 3 somes - or the Girls.
Then if you take the Fun side you have frezzing off WARTS off your BALLS. Or the 2 week wait after you wake up next to what you thought was a 6ft blonde with nice legs. (hey I'm from Sydney and I've been drunk too many times)

All I can say is when you make choice don't regreat it. Move on with it, Keep your self and your health right and nothing can hurt you.

As for all you worried about cheating. hear is a few thoughts.

If you think about how many Penis's your GF has had in her mouth.
Do you think she thinks about how many Mouths have been around your Penis.

Do you think just because your seeing each other for 3-6 months.
And you meat Girls of your dreams - "insert name here"
And she meets her man of her dreams " aka Brad pitt " what ever.
Do you think either side will say no.

It's like that Beyonce Song about putting Ring's on it. ?

but then again IN Australia live 12 months with someone well I thin it applies to GAys now not sure but at least feamle where there is NO set arrangement EG not paying equal rent etc on the lease etc. type crap. You become a defacto.


End of the day I'll say this A very good frined of mine, Brothel hops weekly - for last 7 years. that's at least 50 different FEMALES (1 a week) for 7 years . thats like 350 or something. Excludes the 3-somes - party rooms ( I've visted- like 10 whores and lots of stuff and crazy things) and his favourite Vegas weekend.
Did he ever find love . Yeah he found a Wife - who had another mans child into the 2nd year. - Not his kid - And well he got out and became like MY hero.

Is he happy. I don't know he works he has sex - he drives a new car every 6 months and he has a very big smile on his face and constant hard -on.

he took option 1 then option 3. he's only 29 now.

Basicly The world is as large as you make it and Your life is as large as you make it.

With out him I would never of seen, Trannys, lesbians and Gays in normal world. If I stayed in my world. I would never of known that Cocane can be like Viagra - for both sex's - Or if you mix a Methanphetamine with Viagra, your wild and hard for ages.

Or that it's hard to drive with hard on because the steering wheels keeps hitting your head.


Dump her
Keep her
**** her
what ever.
lifes too short too worry.

yes, rupe